Dating and children after a divorce
"Ultimately, your partner needs to like your kids," says Hartman.If you’re divorced, or have ended a long-term relationship, well-meaning relatives and friends may encourage you to start dating again soon.Before making introductions, tell your kids about the person you're dating, and why they'll like him or her.If your divorce was finalized within the past six months, wait longer and go slower with introductions, as the children are still grieving, Hartman says.
"The overarching fear is that your 'baggage' will bring unhappiness into his or her life," says Hartman.(Life Wire) -- After his 10-year marriage ended in 2004, New Yorker Phil Lee, 42, found himself tagged with the modern-day scarlet letter: "D" -- divorced.He wondered how that (not to mention his three children, ages 19, 11 and 9) would affect his future dating life."This decreases the chances of overwhelming your partner," she says.• Be neutral when speaking about your past partner.
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"Listen to their opinion about your partner, but don't give them the power to influence your decision," she says.